Appreciating the rock bottom feeling that has already been experienced means that the only way to go from here is forward. No matter how slow. No matter what comes your way, you have been at the lowest of lows already, so things can get better if that is what you choose.
One small, steady step forward is still progress. It’s a step in the direction of recovery. I admire your strength and determination to make a complete change of circumstances overnight, but with many little wins come big wins. Patience. Time heals. Don’t expect everything to be different within a moment.
Understanding what you once struggled with, the difficulties that you faced, and realising they have got that little bit easier, is massive progress. Firstly, admitting to your struggles, then identifying the difference from then to now, that can’t be easy. But digging deeper into what made you struggle, the contributing factors, environmental, social, personal, physical – these all are applied to how much we struggle. When we have no idea at the time, it’s even more important to reflect on what helped, what positive changes were made to get out of the deep difficulties you were facing.
What we truly feel, positively or negatively, shapes how we feel towards the same or similar circumstances. If it feels good for others, that doesn’t need to change how you struggle with the same thing. Individual feelings, thoughts, opinions, judgements… they all come with differences. Nothing you feel EVER has to feel wrong.
19/07/2025
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